Listening can be your skill?

You might be thinking listening should be very easy. When we’re not talking, you may think that we’re listening, right? But, not exactly that happen. A lot of times, we think that we’re listening or we just want to make sure others that we are listening to them. But actually, we’re planning to make ourselves ready for what to say next. 

True listening exactly means focusing only on what the other person/persons is/are saying . It’s all about understanding on real-time, not rebuttal or input. Learning how to suspend the sudden & quick judgment coming out from your mind and focus on the better & proper understanding of the other person’s input is one of the most important skills you can develop in yourself.

Always listening carefully is a bit like a hidden intelligence—most of the peoples think that they’re the above average (even though that’s impossible) in listening. A study at Wright State University surveyed over more than 8,000 people from different verticals, cites, their work culture, family culture, and the most interesting fact is almost all of them rated themselves as listening as well as or better than their co-workers. We know for sure that many of them were wrong.

There’s too much talking, gossiping, meetings, seminars, webinars happening on work or study or at your place that opportunities to listen abound. We always used to talk to provide feedback, explain instructions, and communicate deadlines but we forget to focus on listening. Beyond the spoken words, there’s invaluable information to be deciphered through tone of voice, body language, and most importantly what isn’t said. In other words, we can say that failing to keep your ears (and eyes) open could leave you out of the game.